![]() ![]() If it gets serious, channel your Don Draper. Channel your Hank Moody for the everyday shit-test-y arguments until it gets serious. My approach has always been the cold sarcastic one. The anger can be a true break of frame, sometimes even irreversible if she was doing it on purpose expecting an emotional reaction and you gave it to her. It's not your anger, it's your standing your ground. This expresses so many things at once - that you can handle your emotions, that this is about respect not jealousy, that this relationship is something you want but not need, and that you're willing to put your foot down. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who people disrespect, and my reputation is important to me, so if this is something you need to do, and that's OK if it is, then we should think about whether this relationship is a good idea." Maybe it's a fun playful thing, and maybe you mean no harm, but others, guys and girls, will see this as disrespect towards me. Say - "When we're in public, I've noticed you're sometimes flirty with other men. Meet her at night at a safe place and sit down together. She will be nervous and wonder what it is. Stern option: Tell her there's something you need to talk to her about, and set a date and time (a day or two later) to talk about it. You essentially deserve the disrespect that this girl is giving you. This option leaves you looking emotionally weak and defeated. This is our special date night and blah blah blah." The actions that you take are up to you though.Įmotional man bitch option: "You stupid whore I cant fucking believe you're flirting with other guys. It can not be taken lightly or passive aggressively. That is a direct insult to you as a man and is disrespectful. Your date/girlfriend or whatever that you're out with decides to go flirt with other men while you're out and right in front of you. Not letting emotions get in the way of judgement. Be the calm guy, then when you lose your shit it's a case of oh fuck, this is serious, this actually MEANS something rather than oh, here we go again, here's this week's boohoo. Which, I guess, is why it holds that much more weight when you only lose your temper occasionally. ![]() Having said that, constantly throwing tantrums is weak as fuck. Bizarrely, after both times I lost my temper with my girl she confessed that she couldn't look me in the eye while I was telling her off because she was too turned on. Getting angry is a display that you give a shit. "Amused mastery" "Maintain frame" blah blah blah, we keep telling each other that, but, occasionally, we reach the point where you just have to turn around and go "Oh, for fuck's sake, just FUCK OFF." Because stoicism can only play so much of a part and I got pushed beyond that point. Shouted at her, told her to get the fuck out because she was pissing me off and I was done with it/her. Twice, now, I've got angry and lost my temper. That angry phase that every red piller goes though? That means you cared more about her than you do about me What I've gathered over the last year is that stoicism is taken as not giving a shit. I have lost my temper with her twice since we've been together. In time, you should be able to know what to do, because what you do is always in your favour. I personally think you should end whatever relationship you have now and try to get some hobbies to increase your self-worth so you don't have to ask others for help. You don't know how to act in certain social situations when others are not bowing to your demands (classing toddler behaviour) and you don't know how to express your dissatisfaction with people who TRY to do what you want (also classic toddler reaction) IMHO, it seems like you are being the child. Society accepts certain kinds of violence, if you are in the wrong and enough people witness it, you WILL be crucified for just that one act.Īs for your questions, why the fuck would you be angry at a woman? When is she out of line? How are you being stoic? And lastly, how are you treating her as a child? If he stepped on the back your shoe and got all high and mighty when you fell down or w/e, what would be the general reaction of those around you? If you were out alone, minding your own business and some bro with his girl were walking right in behind you. Since I don't know what your situation is, I will go ahead and say it. You can be angry in certain situations, but not in others. Showing anger that is not warranted is breaking frame. ![]()
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